On the way to the win and the gain, there is loss and there is pain.
Loss is accompanied with companions of discouragement, dismay, disgrace and dips of despair. At times, additional emotions of regret, rejection or remorse join the circle.
The greater the attachment, the greater the sense of loss.
How does a values-based leader view loss? With kindness, validity and recognition of human emotions. And with the understanding that where there is loss, there is learning. And where there is learning, there is gain.
What is your most recent loss? Perhaps you’ve lost a contract or a lump of cash. Perhaps you’ve lost your health or your hope. Maybe you’ve lost your passion, position, property or the promise of a better day.
How does a values-based leader view loss? Without blame or judgement. And with the understanding that where there is loss, there is learning. And where there is learning, there is gain.
There are no rules to the timeliness between loss and learning. There is only a belief and acknowledgement that loss and learning are intricately connected.
Face your loss with human gentleness. Consider the learning. That is the gift. Lead with it.