One of the under acknowledged attributes and virtues of leadership, is the brave attention to loss.

Cheers to the courageous ones who allow the integration of loss to be acknowledged and validated.

What is your loss? A person, a dream, health, a relationship, a pet, the life you thought you'd live, ________________.

Everyone grieves, but it takes courage to mourn, to acknowledge and allow the 'homesickness' with no home to return to.

In loss and grief, it takes time for wounds to fade into scars. Give yourself that time of acknowledging the vastness of your loss, without judgement, shame, blame or condemnation.

Lead yourself well in the grit of learning and losing and validating the full human experience.

Leaders, supervisors, managers, bosses, HR team - when an individual on your team (of any position) experiences grief and loss - how are you encouraging, affirming, or allowing space for self-care?

Neighbour, family member, friend, relative, stranger - how are you extending curiosity, understanding, empathy, kindness and encouragement of self-care to those who experience grief and loss?

Individuals with or without a title other than a *human* - how are you validating, respecting, honouring and allowing space for your self-care when you experience grief and loss?

Self-care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation. It's really important to give respectful space for your preservation. You matter. Your life and experiences matter.

Notice. Name. Choose.
Lead yourself well.

Practicing the behaviour that you want others to follow, is on your shoulders. Let's call it agency and awareness and a life dedicated to leading yourself well.

Check in on your own behaviours:

• your balance between working hard and overworking
• the care of your mental health (including how you process grief and loss)
• how you carry the stress of circumstances beyond your control
• expectations of yourself to achieve, perform or get things 'perfect'
• your level of transparency in the messy middle
• how you care for your physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual well-being when you are off-grid

People may hear your words, but your actions and ways of being will be the louder communication.

Lead yourself well.

You can lead others to the extent that you have led yourself.

The style, capacity and strength of leadership has drastically shifted over the past 3-5 years. And if it hasn't shifted within you - it's time for an update.

Work and life are dynamic. Old ways of leading well are old ways of leading.

• Notice engagement of yourself and others.
• Notice the level of trust.
• Notice transaction vs transformational teams, organizations and companies.
• Notice what's honoured and what is ignored.
• Notice what is the spoken values mantra and notice what is the lived experiences day to day and human to human.

If it interests you to lead yourself in your leadership development, based on current dynamics of work and life, grounded in some of the latest neuroscience and solid in professional competencies, consider adding your name to a wait list for the next Executive Leadership Development Group in February 2025.

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Lead yourself and others well.