Ruminating on what has already happened?

Projecting what will (may) happen in the future?

Hamster wheel thinking. Round and round. Hour after hour. Day after day.

Your body and brain believe they are in the present of whatever time travel your mind is currently activating.

Come back to present. Feel your feet on the ground. Breathe in the air right now. Drop your shoulders. Soften your facial muscles. Because it's hard to lead yourself well in the present if you are not often here.

Bonus: your colleagues, your family and your friends will appreciate you being right here, right now.

Lead yourself well.

Confession: every leadership position I have experienced has had seasons of exhaustion.

At times, I consciously chose to run a sprint to the point of exhaustion and then settled back into the beautiful routine of non-urgent leadership.

At times, I consciously chose to run a marathon to the point of exhaustion and then wired in the marathon achievements and the exhilaration of success that I neglected to notice that the worthy cause had now shifted to become my worthiness of human capacity.

Leadership of self and others WILL bring exhaustion. Worthy causes and worthy efforts exist in our humanness from careers to parenting, from acting, interacting and reacting to 'all the things'.

Perhaps leadership is wisely executed when we notice what, how and why we say 'yes' to exhaustion.

Lead yourself well.

What is your definition of enoughness?
Who determines your arrival at enoughness?

What is your work culture of enoughness (as modelled and communicated in word or behaviour by your boss and/or colleagues)?

What are you communicating about enoughness to your team, staff, children or to yourself? (This question is definitely worth a double-click of curiosity and honest, courageous conversation.)

Good enough?
Educated enough?
Rich enough?
Strong enough?
Clever enough?
Funny enough?
Posh enough?
Tough enough?
Well-travelled enough?
Talented enough?
Thin enough?
Interesting enough?
Cultured enough?
Famous enough?

Lead yourself well in words and actions that align with a healthy culture of humans doing well!

There are many types of losses capable of evoking a grief response.

People experience non-death losses and discount the grief or feel they should not be grieving or that they aren't deserving of grief support.

Grief: the emotional response to a significant loss. It may include a range of feelings such as sadness, anger, confusion, guilt, and even numbness (and dozens of variations of emotions).

Grief is deeply personal.

The loss of anything reasonably significant or that you were attached to, IS significant.

Grief and loss WILL impact your leadership.

Sign up for Grief and Loss Coaching Groups at [email protected]. Ten weekly sessions via zoom, beginning on Tuesday, October 8th at 6:45a Pacific Time. $499+gst.

Ten Touchstones to Understanding your Grief, for finding hope and healing. Text book and journal required, by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt.