One of the under acknowledged attributes and virtues of leadership, is the brave attention to loss.
Cheers to the courageous ones who allow the integration of loss to be acknowledged and validated.
What is your loss? A person, a dream, health, a relationship, a pet, the life you thought you'd live, ________________.
Everyone grieves, but it takes courage to mourn, to acknowledge and allow the 'homesickness' with no home to return to.
In loss and grief, it takes time for wounds to fade into scars. Give yourself that time of acknowledging the vastness of your loss, without judgement, shame, blame or condemnation.
Lead yourself well in the grit of learning and losing and validating the full human experience.
Leaders, supervisors, managers, bosses, HR team - when an individual on your team (of any position) experiences grief and loss - how are you encouraging, affirming, or allowing space for self-care?
Neighbour, family member, friend, relative, stranger - how are you extending curiosity, understanding, empathy, kindness and encouragement of self-care to those who experience grief and loss?
Individuals with or without a title other than a *human* - how are you validating, respecting, honouring and allowing space for your self-care when you experience grief and loss?
Self-care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation. It's really important to give respectful space for your preservation. You matter. Your life and experiences matter.
Notice. Name. Choose.
Lead yourself well.
"My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned, and that's okay." Quote by Rachel Wolchin
If you have experienced loss of any kind....
If you are ready, willing and able to honour and process 'what didn't go as planned'.....
Consider enrollment in a one-hour, 10-week grief and loss coaching group, that will be a foundation for the reality you find yourself in.
10 Touchstones by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt (required text for coaching group)
1. Open to the presence of your loss
2. Dispel a dozen misconceptions about grief
3. Embrace the uniqueness of your grief
4. Explore your feelings of loss
5. Understand the six needs of mourning
6. Recognize you are not crazy
7. Nurture yourself
8. Reach out for help
9. Seek reconciliation, not resolution
10. Appreciate your transformation
Logistics:
Fee is $499+gst
Option of once a month 1:1 coaching available for $135+gst per session.
CDN funds please.
Curious?
Interested?
DM or email [email protected] for a copy of the syllabus.
If you are unsure, if this is a good fit for you and would like to experience a one-time coaching session with me, please email [email protected] and ask for my calendar for this one-time offer of one-hour coaching for $70+gst. (limited availability)
Lead yourself as well as you can. I'll be present with you!
Am I the only one who has endured grief and loss?
Sadly, all humans experience grief—it's a difficult reality for all of us.
Grief is best experienced in 'doses'. Be patient with yourself and others. This is a journey that can not be rushed, although it can be honoured, befriended and integrated over time.
Over time, I hope your grief softens and transforms into something that allows your natural compassion to shine even brighter, bringing comfort and kindness to yourself and to those around you. Although the journey is yours, you need not traverse this journey alone.
Reach out to trusted others around you. Ask them to listen. Tell them what you want and what you need. Find people who hear you, who see you.
And if you feel like a grief and loss support group is a meaningful fit for you right now, reach out to join (or receive more info) on the grief and loss support group starting on October 8th. (10 weeks).
Lead yourself well.
