This being human thing is NOT nothing. Connection and 'better together' is a basic, essential universal need, which has been woven into the tapestry since the beginning of time.

Somewhere in the industrial and information, culture shifted the belief and practise of a superior view of self-made, independance. Belief that one should be able to succeed and/or achieve mastery without a village of support, became the expectation.

Folks, that's not working.

Humans survive and thrive when the right team of people are safe enough together than there is authentic empowerment of interdependent strengths moving forward together.

Name the people of your team or village. Say their names.

Just make sure there is a values alignment.

Notice.
Name.
Choose.

Lead yourself well.

Both /and.

How is it working for you?

Time to observe how to live your values in a meaningful way.
Time actualize the intentions.
Time to serve others in a way that honours your values and supports the change you want to influence.

Lead yourself well in the both/and.

You can not hurry trusted relationships at work and in life.

Trust takes repeated trustworthy behaviours over time.
Trust can be broken in .07 of a second.

Value your people.
With intention and attention.
Do the work of 'better together'.
No shortcuts of manipulation, coercion or dotted-line contracts to trust-based leadership. It's authentic or nothing.

Lead yourself well in authentic trust with those whom you do business with, those you live with, and with those whom you value a relationship.

Manage your nervous system - it's one of the most important things you can do.

When your attention and focus reminds you of what is 'not' in your control, invite your grit to create more space between stimuli and response to weaken the quick synapse of toxic stress and fear-based reactions within your mind-body-brain connection.

Your default attention will take the path most familiar, which may not be helpful to your leadership and wellness (for self and others). Notice that?

An intentional values-based pause is helpful in managing the nervous system, so that you can access and apply executive thinking to the challenges around you.

Lead yourself well.