Being thankful for all of it, doesn't feel do-able so much of the time.
That's fair.
Befriend the dissonance when and as you can.
Hold gratitude and thankfulness for what you can.
Think on things that are good. Think on the blessings without ignoring the ick.
Everything belongs.
It all matters.
YOU matter.
AND I'm grateful for you.
Are you grateful for you?
Thankfulness is more than a day. It's a chosen way of being. Lead yourself sell.
You can and should be intentional about how you lead yourself in the following ways:
It's a lot, isn't it? You don't have to arrive or achieve it all today. But thoughtfully consider what matters most to you right now - and what will matter most to you in 10 years - and set your actions to follow your intentions.
You may have to miss out on a few things to be intentional about what matters most.
Lead yourself well.
Is it a scary thought to be still? Hmmm, why might that be a scary thought?
In rest, we can learn to see what is beneath the surface of the hustle, the angst, the restlessness and the foreboding tension.
In silence, we may hear the still small voice of what we 'need' to hear. We may find direction and wisdom for whatever the mountain you are climbing, or whatever swamp you are wading through, or whatever valley seems dark and unending.
It takes courage to be silent.
It takes courage to listen.
Notice and name.
Choose to listen.......
How honest can you be about your recent loss?
Who is listening, acknowledging and honouring how you really are?
Are you nice-sizing it? Are you making it more palatable for other's comfort? Are you making it more palatable for your comfort?
"You are fine. Everything is fine." (??)
Notice and name that a felt sense of loss is valid, legit and worth your attention.
Honour what is.
Befriend grief for it's love and attachments, for it's learning and it's companion in genuine realities.
Everything belongs.
Notice and name.
Choose to lead yourself well in the messy middle of loss and grief.
