This being human thing is NOT nothing. Connection and 'better together' is a basic, essential universal need, which has been woven into the tapestry since the beginning of time.

Somewhere in the industrial and information, culture shifted the belief and practise of a superior view of self-made, independance. Belief that one should be able to succeed and/or achieve mastery without a village of support, became the expectation.

Folks, that's not working.

Humans survive and thrive when the right team of people are safe enough together than there is authentic empowerment of interdependent strengths moving forward together.

Name the people of your team or village. Say their names.

Just make sure there is a values alignment.

Notice.
Name.
Choose.

Lead yourself well.

Sometimes we are in control of the door openings and door closings. Often times, others have made that choice for us. That can make life feel unfair and painful.

Life is unfair and painful.

The door of 'how' to proceed has your hand on the doorknob. How you approach the door; if you open it or linger by it - is for you to decide.

Decide which doors to open each morning.
Decide which doors to close each evening.

Notice. Name. Choose.

Lead yourself well.

It is true - that when we are ready, willing and able to step into discomfort for the respecting our goals, values and aspirations - sometimes it gets worse before it gets better.

When we allow our dissonance to surface, the 'treatment effect' can occur. When we notice what we need to notice, we can experience regret, difficult habits, ways of being, unhealthy attachments and the comfort of the familiar ways.

Awareness typically asks for change.
Change is typically uncomfortable.
There is no growth without change.

What we resist, persists.

Notice.
Name.
Choose?

Lead yourself well.

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Bittersweet - perhaps that's the best any of us can expect in our wild and wonderful, messy and challenging work and life.

It's okay.
It all belongs.

Given all the circumstances of right now, right here (and the projections of what might yet occur):
1. What is the PERSPECTIVE you want to choose in the next days/season of mind-management?
2. What are YOUR core values that you want to respect and honour?
3. What are your patterns of thinking and doing that are NOT serving the things that are most important to you?
4. When and how frequently will you check in on how you are balancing unending challenges and things outside of your control?

Reframe.
Redirect.
Refocus.
Rewire.

Lead yourself well.